http://www.vsscyberoffice.com/articlelive en-us http://www.vsscyberoffice.com/articlelive N/A vparham@vsscyberoffice.com Tue, 08 Jul 2008 17:52:15 -0400 20 http://www.vsscyberoffice.com/articlelive/articles/22/1/Dealing-with-Infidelity.html Learning that your soldier has cheated on you is enough to send you on the emotional roller coaster ride of a lifetime. Do you leave or stay in the marriage? Your friends and family encourage you to leave but the bottom line is that you must deal with your spouse's infidelity. You must deal with your own hurt and betrayal, and the final decision about what to do must be yours and should be well thought-out. vparham@vsscyberoffice.com (Victoria M. Parham) Thu, 11 Jan 2007 00:00:00 -0500 http://www.vsscyberoffice.com/articlelive/articles/20/1/Home-Alone-for-the-Holidays.html For a military spouse being home alone for the holiday's is not a joyous occasion and can be quite difficult without proper support channels in place. I can remember so vividly my daughter and I spending Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years without my husband and I can tell you from experience, though difficult, you can still have a joyous holiday season, all it takes is some creativity.  The Internet with email capability was not an option when my husband was away which speaks to how far the military has come in terms of keeping families connected during deployments. vparham@vsscyberoffice.com (Victoria M. Parham) Fri, 22 Dec 2006 00:00:00 -0500 http://www.vsscyberoffice.com/articlelive/articles/16/1/Woman-First-Military-Wife-Second.html A lesson learned in my 18 years of being an Army wife:  I am a woman first, then a military spouse, and as long as I kept the roles in perspective, my life as a woman, military wife, and mom was most fulfilling. vparham@vsscyberoffice.com (Victoria M. Parham) Wed, 25 Oct 2006 00:00:00 -0400 http://www.vsscyberoffice.com/articlelive/articles/14/1/Mission-First.html I'm always amazed by the emails I receive and the posts that I read on various message board forums from new military spouses who are trying to grasp this whole military spouse lifestyle.  Like the other day, I'm reading a message from a new spouse who asks, why her soldier is always headed off to participate in training exercises and leaving her and the children behind.  Understanding the new spouses frustration, I quickly composed an email expressing my concern and understanding of her situation.  I shared with her a list of support networks and available resources and closed my message letting her know that she was not alone and that a team of dedicated spouses and civilians stand ready to provide her with emotional support and empowerment.  vparham@vsscyberoffice.com (Victoria M. Parham) Thu, 31 Aug 2006 00:00:00 -0400 http://www.vsscyberoffice.com/articlelive/articles/8/1/Dealing-with-the-Deployment-of-your-Active-Duty-Soldier.html Learning that your active duty soldier is being deployed whether long or short term can impact both you and your family (especially) young children in ways you never imagined.  As a military spouse married to the military, you must find a way(s) to cope with this sometimes heavy burden.  Can you do it?  Yes you can.  This article provides some tips and resources to help keep you empowered during a time when might otherwise feel alone and unsupported. vparham@vsscyberoffice.com (Victoria M. Parham) Wed, 03 May 2006 00:00:00 -0400