Learning that your soldier has cheated on you is enough to send you on the emotional roller coaster ride of a lifetime. Do you leave or stay in the marriage? Your friends and family encourage you to leave but the bottom line is that you must deal with your spouse's infidelity. You must deal with your own hurt and betrayal, and the final decision about what to do must be yours and should be well thought-out.

I've been married to my now retired Army soldier 18 years going on 19 and I'm more in love with him today than when we first got married.  Sounds gusshy doesn't it?  But it's the truth and I can’t deny it.

I'm always amazed by the emails I receive and the posts that I read on various message board forums from new military spouses who are trying to grasp this whole military spouse lifestyle.  Like the other day, I'm reading a message from a new spouse who asks, why her soldier is always headed off to participate in training exercises and leaving her and the children behind.  Understanding the new spouses frustration, I quickly composed an email expressing my concern and understanding of her situation.  I shared with her a list of support networks and available resources and closed my message letting her know that she was not alone and that a team of dedicated spouses and civilians stand ready to provide her with emotional support and empowerment.